I felt the same way until I realized that a lot of New York scene has to do with a very no bullshit mentality. You really do need good networking skills as well as something to offer that is second to none or different from what is already availible. Sorry to say there are brilliant dj's in every circle and every clique has the next 4 turntable terror waiting to bust out. Integrally it is what you have to offer and your ability to network and weed out the bullshit from the real. Especially being from new york you can weed out the shit from the real in a heart beat, so I see the point about cliques and such. But you maintain a respect of self when people know you have integrity. Sorry to say drama and gossip is a reality, but if people are talking about you then maybe you are on the mind. no?