There's lots of different shit going on here by the sounds of it.

Firstly - relative levels of decks and studio equipment. AT - I'm guessing that the decks are going through the same mixer as the rest of the studio stuff and you aren't talking about the DJ mixer level here.

Follow some kind of process for setting up the mixer. Set all your faders to 0db (hopefully some way from full), mute them all, whilst playing your track turn the gain controls till the output meters read 0db unmuting only one track at a time.

Pull all the faders back down again.

Push the kick so it reads somewhere between -9db and -6db on the meters.

Leave it there.

Mix the rest of the stuff however you feel is best.

See how you're doing now.

Bounce the thing into the computer/DAW or whatever you use for mastering.

limit the thing a little, not a lot. (-3db drop at the loudest bits max)

If you still sound way quiet compared to other tracks then maybe you've got a subbass problem. Check this by rolling everything under 40hz off with a high pass filter then limit the thing again. If it gets loads louder then you've just got a load of subbass you probably don't want filling up the headroom.

See how you get on ...

Don't forget, most CDs and MP3s are limited way more than they should be for a nice sound. So be careful what you compare with ... you can easily get into an overcompressed nasty loudness race where just turning up the monitor volume will make it right.