It's capitalist if the value has to be monetary. That's not using the word capitalist in any negative way however, just that money being the main object is a theme of capitalism.
I think most of us are capitalists to some extent - it's the world we live in and its very hard to not have to go down that route when you need to get what you need.
But I do agree, that many things do need to have some reciprocity to have value.
But I also think that reciprocity does not need to be linear - i.e. the "payment" may not need to go back the the person providing the goods/service.