Use a 909 and or 808 kick, drop the decay on em. Add a reverb with much pre-delay (so it bumps in off-beat, measure and compare with offbeat hihats) and late / early reflections, set a lowpass filter in mono to about 200-400 Hz (add a high-pass and cut away 0-50 (or more) on the verb channel and send to the kick (experiment with the send value, it doesn't sound good using way too much).
Compress the kick a bit and remove some attack, add a low pass filter or EQ on that one too to reduce the click / attack transients and boost a little around the 200-300hZ while you remove some from 150-170hZ.

Experiment what frequencies works best for the kick in the current track or to the current kick. Notice you can get a nice effect not using the reverbs in mono for this but it gets more tricky with the low end phase problems but you can get around it, creates much nice space.
You can also add a distortion effect to the kick and use it in an additive way. Best is to not make the distortion too obvious, just create some grit to it.

There's lots of ways but the above is pretty much what I do usually.